• MEET STEVE DEAN

    ONLINE DATING CONSULTANT & SPEAKER

     

    Hi, I'm Steve, the founder and principle consultant at Dateworking.

     

    Creating connection is what I do. It’s what I live for. I host salons, dinners, meetups, and coworking sessions nearly every night of the week across multiple cities in order to bring people together from all over the world to share their stories and build new friendships. My greatest joy comes when I can connect people so perfectly that their newfound interactions send positive ripples into the world.

     

    On a daily basis, people ask me for advice on everything from dating, to job hunting, to personal development, to intimacy. I host workshops, salons, dinners, meetups, and coworking sessions nearly every night of the week across multiple cities in order to bring people together from all over the world to share their stories and build new friendships, startups, and movements.

     

    Since 2011, I have advised, recruited, and consulted for dozens of dating companies, including OkCupid, CoffeeMeetsBagel, Hinge, Spectra, and Happy Hour. I like to focus on competitive research, business development, user acquisition, team expansion, and my personal favorite: product/launch strategy!

  • Dating Networks Really Work

    In 2011, I was running a dating consultancy and a recruiting company at the same time. I coined the phrase Dateworking to reflect the nonstop overlaps I found between modern dating and professional networking.

     

    Things really changed when I began developing the principles behind Dateworking and applying them to my own dating life.

    The Dateworking approach has left me and my friends receiving so many warm personal referrals to new friends and lovers that we actually had to start building dating communities and retreats to handle the constant surplus of amazing people in our lives.

  • Start Building Your Own Dating Network

    I will teach you to build dating networks that will serve you (and your friends) throughout life.

  • How to Build a Dating Network

    Here's a brief glimpse into the methods I've been honing since 2011.

    1

    Reflect

    Identify the habits, skills, and qualities you want to develop, and the places and spaces where you want to learn them.

    2

    Connect

    Identify the key communities & leaders with and for whom you could lead the process of learning those skills.

    3

    Share

    Pursue your curiosity ferociously. Write or share publicly about what you learn. Invite others to join you in the process.

    4

    Experiment

    Cultivate intimate, judgment-free spaces for shared intimacy and collaborative learning.

    5

    (co-)host

    Welcome others with a spirit of omotenashi, making them feel so much gratitude and respect that they'll feel confident referring you to anyone they know.

    6

    Introspect

    Identify the key components of dating, sexuality, and romance that you're most excited to explore.

    7

    Communicate

    Tell others how to refer their friends and acquaintances to you to build and express those shared desires together.

    8

    Refer

    Practice the change you want to see. Make these referrals for your friends. Use and champion the lexicon you want to see your friends using for you.

  • Build your dating and networking skills simultaneously by practicing these antifragile habits.

    Antifragile habits don't break when under pressure. They actually grow stronger, evolve, and expand when facing sudden challenges.

    In Networking...

    Someone who doesn't respond to your email may have a lot more going on. Your data set is limited. Don't presume to know their life.

    Others have limitless potential to help us. Embrace this, and do the same. The same hiring manager who cant hire you at this company could be the first one to call you up for an interview at their next company.

    Treat your relationships like startups. Be creative. Realistically assess the market, Be upfront about your limitations, Be ready to pivot when needed. Be radically optimistic. Enthusiasm is infectious.

    Don't pressure for things you don't know the other person wants. A friendship lasts forever and pays dividends over time. A burned bridge gets you nowhere.

    In Dating...

    Someone who doesn't respond to your dating message may have a ton of messages already. Don't presume to know their life.

    Our friends, exes, and even current dates have limitless potential to help us. Embrace this, and do the same. The same suitor who isn't looking to build something with you right now could be the first one to reach out to you when their best friend newly re-enters the dating market.

    Treat your relationships like startups. Be creative. Realistically assess the market, Be upfront about your limitations, Be ready to pivot when needed. Be radically optimistic. Enthusiasm is infectious.

    Don't pressure for things you don't know the other person wants. A friendship lasts forever and pays dividends over time. A burned bridge gets you nowhere.

    Whether in dating, networking, or Dateworking, always strive to build networks of deep integrity, where referrals abound and people feel actively empowered by standing in your presence.

    Make it your daily habit to treat everyone and everything with the same degree of earnest pride and care that this man extends to his onion.

  • Make dating work for you.

    Message me with any questions you've got.

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